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Spouse of an expat: Do not stop yourself from taking a step

Updated: May 27, 2019

I have heard many spouses of expats saying that they can’t do as many activities as they want to in host countries.

What makes you stop?

There are some restrictions, but at least in the States, you can study, work (part-time or full-time), and more with your spouse visa (L2).

If you would like to know more about your visa and work, please check this site.

(Thanks to one of my readers of my blog, I found out that the spouse of E2 visa holder can obtain E2 and eligible to work as well. For more info, please visit

So don’t believe that you can’t do what you want. It is an excuse.

The other day, I had an opportunity to talk to a young woman who was relocated to the States due to her spouse’s work transition. She told me that it had been almost four years since they moved. Within these four years, she started a yoga instructor certification program (in English which is not her native tongue) and she will be finishing the program before the end of the year.

What an exciting story!

It must be challenging to do a demanding program in a foreign language. She could be the only non-native English speaker in the program. But she decided to try and worked hard. And she is not satisfied only with the certification. She has an even bigger dream. She told me that she wanted to launch a business in the host country.

A lot of people might say it would be too difficult. And probably it won’t be easy. However, she didn’t want to give her dream up. She definitely needed support for both business knowledge and emotional support. But it IS possible.

In terms of business knowledge, you can learn it through books, internet, lectures, and other people’s experiences.

However, emotional support can’t learn from those resources. And, emotional support can be a key to success. Because if there is a doubt in your ability, this can stop you from taking actions. You need to learn how to make mistakes, how to make a contingency plan, and how to succeed.

You might say that you have no confidence because you don’t have any experience. And if you have relevant experience and/or have practiced enough, your confidence level would be higher. However, you can’t get enough experience in everything. People who have confidence are not confident because they have enough experience. They are confident because they accept the fact that they can succeed without failing and learning. And what do you say if I tell you that your today's actions give you confidence in the future?

Do you hear your inner voices saying “You are not good enough” and/or “It is too difficult for you”? It’s normal to hear those voices, but it’s your choice if you believe in the voice or believe in yourself.

Which would you like to believe?

If you would like to believe in yourself, but need help, please contact me at or through Facebook messenger.

We can discuss what we can do together.


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I would love to hear your story.


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