Updated: May 27, 2019
In the last post, I wrote about my client who couldn’t make a friend and was saying “I am not good enough”.
As we discussed, we found out that she was saying the phrase without any firm reasons.
She believed that she was not good enough because of her past experience which was so old that her current ability was not comparable at all. However, she believed that she was "still" not good enough. Therefore, she hesitated to take any action to make friends. As a result of no action, she didn’t have any friend. No wonder!
However, it is very common to tell yourself that you are not good enough or similar phrases. So many people think/believe the exact same thing. And it is OK. Do not blame yourself to have the idea!
Probably it protected you from harm. It used to play the role of your inner guardian. Think about the oldest memory you have when you told that you were not good enough. You might have been hurt very badly at that time, and found out that by telling yourself “I’m not good enough”, you wouldn’t get hurt so badly.
So it was helpful when you were little and less experienced.
However, if it doesn't serve you as a protector but a stopper now, it’s time for you to let it go.
Are you ready?
Would you like to take a new step?
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